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Lesson for the ladies

I was reading Nun's multiply. And i came across this and i tot i wanna share it with you guys.

Lessons abt Love ...

1. A man won't let go if he really loves you.Do not hold on to someone who has let go of you.
He does not love you and does not value having you.Believe me, he will not let go if he really loves you.
There is another reason he is not willing to tell.

2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.There is only one reason why he ended your relationship.
He just does not love you.
Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done.
Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.

3. Do not get hung up on your past.Do not nag or distrust your current boyfriend just because your ex hurt you.Do not treat him or the relationship the same way.
Do not compare.He will not react the same way as your ex.
Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl.What happened with your ex was not your fault.
It was not because you didn't guard him enough or you didn't make him happy enough.

4. Do not look into images.How many times have you met a girl who didn't have the best image in school or at the office,
but you get to know the girl and found out she was actually extremely nice?Do not rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality.Do not fear men just because your "supposedly" perfect ex-boyfriend mistreated you.

5. Always have your own set of rules.Set your limits on how far you'd go for a guy.
It's perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it's worth it..And it's worth it if the guy is treating you right.

6. Do not be scared to lose him.Don't be scared that he'll break up with you.Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage.Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.

7. Avoid calling your guy.It's a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it's the guy who's calling, not the girl.He will get tired of you if you keep on calling.
He will lose interest and challenge.More so, he will get annoyed.
But it's a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number.But avoid as much as possible.
Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).

8. There is a guy who will value you.There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved.And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together.
So don't lose hope.Don't settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to men.There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can.Also, do not believe him when he says it's just the way he really is.He's not the sweet or expressive-type.Remember during your first few weeks together?Where has that sweet guy gone?
He simply is not that into you anymore.

9. Always be the only one, no matter what.Do not ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says hejust can't get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason,
he can't leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.

10. He must respect you.No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.

11. If he fooled you, end it.Philandering once is enough.You can never trust nor respect the person again.

12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.Do not steal another girl's man, for whatever reason.
Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on therebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last.
You will only end up wasting more years of your life.

13. Do not force yourself into a relationship.Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades
and the one hasn't come yet..Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc..If you are even thinking of these things, you have not fallen in love yet.

14. Do not settle.If you are not happy anymore with your relationship, break up instantly.He will not stay with you forever no matter how upright he might seem to be.Eventually, he will also want love and happiness in his life.

15. A relationship has to have love.Love is the only thing that will push you to give your efforts into making the relationship work.And believe me, keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of bot parties.

16. Don't be afraid to be single.It's fun to be single, try it. You can go out whenever and wherever you want.You are free. You can date whomever you want and you get to go out for free!Do not get a boyfriend just for the sake of having one.
Do not settle.

17. Be a good girl.Be a good girl to attract a good guy.Enter the relationship with sincere intentions.Take the guy and the relationship seriously with the plan of spendingthe rest of your life with that person (of course, this is after youhad your bit of fun in your younger years) .
If you compare your flings from your real relationships, youwill know that the latter makes you happier and more fulfilled.

18. Love without limits.Whether you loved and gave everything or loved but held out for some things,
if the relationship ends, you still get hurt.
But if you gave your everything, you were happy and you could say that it was worth it.
If you didn't give your all, you get hurt for nothing.

19. You will get over him.Love is over-stated.
Love eventually ends and you are free to love another.

20. Be the one.Act like you are the one.
Don't be a nagger.
Don't hinder his gimmicks.
Don't give in to him too easily.Make him treat you as important.
Don't be easy.
Don't be like every other girl he had in his life.

Im really digging point number 16. Im really enjoying singlehood as much as possible. Heck, i may not have a bf but so what? Im still young. Besides, i have the loveliest people around me. They keep me sane. i seek solace from them since i dun have a bf. So there.

P/s- I made a pact with nipz last night.
We said that if we're not married by the age of 35, we're gona marry each other. Lol.

@ 10:03 AM

Sheer boredom

Im soooo bored!!! *shout out loud*

Im soooo fed up!!!! *shouts out loud*

If i could just shout out and you guys could hear me, im very sure i'd get furious stares. Bluek.

Ive seriously run out of things to blog about. Its a friday today! Weekend is here. *jumps for joy*

I have my weekend packed with activities. Sorry i have to make you an exception Naz. We'll meet up next week ok. Promise. Since you 'book' me a week earlier. *smiles*

Saturday- Wedding reception @ woodlands.
It just brings back those memories few years ago where i snucked off from the wedding to meet HIM. This time around, all is different. I wont meet him. I cant meet him. I lost all contact with him. Its all for the better. It hurts still. I aint gonna deny it. I can fool others but i cant fool myself. So ders no point lying. But i do believe in this. Everyday, the pain gets lesser and lesser. Every passing day, i go stronger and stronger. Alhamdullilah.
Anyways, back to where i started, this time around, its my kakak sedara's wedding at the same place.

Sunday- Meet up with the sec sch peeps. Though i think the plan terpelencong abit, at least i'll be miting up with my fav people. Esp u Nipz.

"Kau tetap kawan baik aku ok. Cheer up!"

Im currently chatting with the sec sch peeps on MsN. Mcm2 karenah satu2.

Ugh. Im bored la. Waiting for Naz to call & disturb me. At least i will have sumting to do. Haha.

Till next time. Toodles.

@ 1:19 PM

Pixies time!!

Well, im back after days of being hiatus.

Finally found time to sit infront of the pc. Uploaded all the gazilion pictures(im exaggerating of coz) to my multiply.
And finally, im blogging again! Yayness.

I have one of the most saddest song on my blog, dun ya tink?
This song makes me terk terk terk.
I havent got bored to this song yet.
Its been on my repeat playlist mode since i heard Roslan sang it on Anugerah a week ago. =)

Well, i have pictures 4 all to view.
I had the most tiring weekend!
Nonetherless, it was well spent with the loveliest peeps ever.
Actually, im supposed to wait for pictures from darling bestie but her internet connection is down. So no choice lor.

Friday.
Racial Harmony Day celebration.
I wore a kebaya. And my chn looked lovely.

my boisterous k2a.

my notorious k2b.

(Dun be smittened by their cutesy looks. they are all NOISY bunch! heh)

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checher diyana & the girls.

oh, they are siblings btw, can u tell?

Ive found a replacement for Muhd Riyadh.

I have Neo Zhiyuan now.

*love love*

It was payday. Headed to town to mit my dearest sri. Had her company to look for ianz bdae prezzie. I shopped a bit here and there. Like whats new!~
Met up with the rest of the lovelies. Had dinner @ Surabaya. Ayam penyet!!! Woohooo..!
Here are some pixies for view.

everlasting frenship.

My lovelies. *hugz*

Pictures are deceiving. You wouldnt wanna noe wat sri did afta she posed the 1st picture with me. *bluek*

Saturday. Karaoke time with sery & ija. These two babes of mine havent met each other for nearly two years. Last time they met, we iftar together. This time round, we chose karaoke. And a whole lot of camwhoring, followed by fireworks watching at esplanade and a lil bit of shopping. Yea, a lil bit ony on my part. NOT!

I sang a song for you... *smiles*

I had these babes for company last saturday!

I had to hide behind her.

You dun wanna noe y.

*bluek*

Camwhoring is our hobby. hehe.

While ija betulkan her tudung for the umpteeth time, me & sri, as usual camwhored...

Emo ladies...?

Fireworks viewed at esplanade.

Splendid!

Saturday was great ladies.

Lets do it again.

*love love*

Sunday was well spent with bestie & family.

I miss lil princess soo much.

Though she ALWAYS take a lil bit longer time to warm up to me, i still love her altogether.

Dearest bestie, hope you like the prezzie i got for you. The smile on yourface n lil princess laughter when i played with her made my day.

Tak sia2 ok i turun marsiling. =p

Well, till next time peeps.

Toodles.

@ 8:33 PM

Bz.

I'll be back for more juicy stories & gossips.

Im juz too busy right now. =)

@ 3:31 AM

A penny 4 UR tots.

"So why do you act like i still care abt him? Lookg @ me like im hurt wen im e 1 who said i didnt 1 it 2 work. I CHOSE 2 let him go. He wasnt MAN enuf 4 me. I tink he's JUST the MAN for U."

@ 1:23 AM

Nothing but the truth

@ 12:24 PM

Rose among the thorns

Catching up session with nipz & og was practically overwhelming.
Being in a heartfelt conversation with nipz made my day.
Practically remembered the marina promenade incident where the 3 of us fell silent while listening to Richard Marx- Right Here Waiting.

They were in their own world and for a second, i nearly wanted to break down.
But of course, i didnt.
I guess im much stronger than before.
Ive stopped myself to do what i wanted to.
Im standing firm to my decision.

I told Nipz about the ritual i did the other day.

I wrote a long love letter to him. Initially, the plan was to sent it via snail mail. I even went through the effort of getting his address from his sis. Then, i thought to myself.

"Would it make a difference?"

"Would he leave her for me?"

You know, ive always had this longing and hoping that he will but reality struck.

I KNOW he wouldnt. And its unfair to me for holding and cherishing on to false hopes. True?

So what happened to that letter?

I burnt it. My whole heartfelt feeling burnt. As i watched the letters trickle away into ashes, i felt better. A lot better.

And Nipz even make a joke out of it.

Yes Nipz, it was supa funny. Wish i could share but, on second thought, nah.

Ok, enough heartbreak and depressing entries. I want to start anew. Lets not have depressing entries anymore. Its not healthy.

Here's some pixs from yesterday.

I told the guys that i lurve dis pix.

Both said i was chubby.

Thx!~

Met up with this couple @ esplanade library.

Good frens read together. =)

Before we start pedih2-ing. =p

Ok guys, lets make the sentosa outing two weeks from now a success!

ROSE AMONG THE THORNS

@ 10:51 AM

Will you..?

So, will you..?

@ 9:00 AM

Gourmet Carousel.

yummylicious food.

exceptionally breathtaking ambience.

helpful & terlalu bnyk keje waiter & waitresses.

perfect wonderful companions from the family.

accidental bumping-into my ex lecturers.n...me in tudung! =)

(back from work la..) *whispers*

the twins.

the bdae girl.

The parental units.

the family picture.

the girls.

lastly, me & noi.

Happy 23rd sis!

GOURMET CAROUSEL

@ 2:51 PM

sumting to ponder

No wonder YOU didnt make it!

@ 3:05 AM

4am in the morning.

That saturday, we were all so excited to party but gave it a miss coz the bdae girl decided against it. She was dead tired for not having slept for a day. Besides she find it absurb that they impose those rules. She then pursuaded us to karaoke. And how can we ever say NO to that? Heh.
Here are some of the pixs.

We took the last train.

Whose dat girl?

Me of coz.

Mcm boy2 ok dari blakang.

Happy hour!!!

Her lil bdae celebration cheese cake.

the sweet bdae girl in pink.

bdae people.

oops. bdae dimply people.

lol.

At 4am in the morning, they still look sweet as ever.

But me..?

*sigh*

Late Night Karaoke

@ 7:36 PM

Love Letter

Dear You,

4 years have passed as my life has changed. I can't see tomorrow knowing that today, it's all gone. I had it all with you, the friendship, the love and now it's all memory with nothing ahead. My life has fallen; I only have faith in God to do his magic. I look forward to the end of my pain and yet I've felt the deepest pain a girl can ever feel in her heart. A cut so deep that medicine can't ever heal, but the pain of being alone is there.

Tears are the memory we have of each other and yet I lose them every time I cry thinking of you. They say time heals broken hearts but what do they know? They're not in my shoes. We take life for granted and never think of tomorrow, just enjoying today. Life is too short to be alone. All I can say is that I have faith in God ... that he will let me see tomorrow. I've written this with tears and blood that drips from my heart. I know there will be a tomorrow as long as I have you today.

It has been such a long time since we became friends. We have shared many good things together. I laughed and cried with you, shared some sparkling moments with you. But, there is something that you haven't known... I love you.
Not as a friend but as someone who would share a lifetime with you. I always ask myself why I love you... still, I cannot find an answer for it.

Every morning I wake up and there is a pain that shoots through my heart. The thought that I have to spend another day without you rips my soul apart. It pains me to know that the love I have for you burns within and fueled by undying passion. It pains me to know that I could have let the best that ever happen to me leave without a fight, and you know what hurts the most is the thought that you might not feel the same. The hardest part is not falling in love, but allowing yourself to fall out. I can't see my future any other way, but with you in it. It scares me to think that you can envision yours without me. It pains me to know that all good things have to come to an end.

I wish you would tell me to let go of you. I guess since you won't tell me to go, I'll continue on with the pain of not ever having you. Just tell me what you feel - that is all I need. I just need closure so I can sleep at night. If you miss me, find the brightest star I'll do the same for you.
I don't think you need a person like me in your life right now, you really need to worry about your future and it doesnt look like i'll be a part of it, and i just bring you down.
Waiting for you to make up your mind is a surefire for frustration.
I stand firm to my decision. Im leaving with a hole in my heart but maybe now, i can move on.

Love always,Diyana.

@ 5:58 AM

Geraldine's wedding dinner.

I dolled myself at 3 ish. Changed my dress a few times b4 settling for the orange dress.

Ive decided to go retro! =)

I left home at 6. Made my way to ija's crib.

I was continously gawked by chinese guys. I wonder why.

Then, when we reached Laguna country club, my colleagues gushed, saying they couldnt recognize me and that i soo looked chinese. Oh ok! So that's why!

(Remind me next time look for chinese bf k. lol)

Niwaes, here are some pictures. All taken from my K800i of coz.
Pat2 mana you all tak tau yg i dah tkde cammie!!

In the McQueen.

me & her.

b4 we go in.

i went retro.

we sat at table 20.

oh dats shyama.

shayama, sayson, auntie.

my wonderful colleagues.

love dem!

we're so full...!!

a forced smile?

sleepy already ija? hehe.

us with our vp- jovine.

me & sharon.

sibok aje la si azly ni. *bluek*

ahh. dats better.

Chantik chantik. *quote from sharon neo!*

lol.

More pictures from Geraldine's wedding - CLicK HeRe

Anyways, after finishing my 8 course meal, ija & azly gave me a ride to Tanah Merah Mrt where i met up wit sri to mit the rest of my lovelies for a karaoke session meet up cum celebrating efny's BooBsDay. *smiles*

Anyways, while walking to the toilet at Cash Studio, i noticed this guy walking towards my direction.

He looks oh so familiar.

He passed me.

I turned to look at him still and i realised that he was STILL looking at me.

He stopped walking. I stopped too.

"You Zulkaisi kan?" I said.

"Sape ni eh?" His face cringes a bit trying to recall me.

Soo cute! Lol.

"Diyana la. Woodsville Secondary. Your junior."

(For the record, i hang with the seniors a lot. And him especially coz i have the hugest crush on him when i was in secondary one. He's two years my senior anyway. He still looked the same la ok. Except with piercing and all. Still hot though. *winks*)

Him: Oh da besar eh.

Me: Eh mesti la besar, takkan masih kecik lagi kan.

Him: where's your sister?

Me: Oh she's holidaying at kl.

Him: Ohh. U dtg dgn siapa?

Me: Oh im with my frens. *pointing to turn at sri but she left la ok*

Him: Ohh. Makin lawa eh. hehe.

Me: Haha. Ah layan. Klah you. Bye.

And we departed ways. Im regretting the fact that i did not ask for his number la ok!!!

Aaaaarrrrrggghhhh.

*smacks forehead*

To him, again. *sigh*- Coz i want it all or nothing at all. There's no where left to fall when you reach the bottom its now or never. Is it all or are we just frens? Is this how it ends with a simple telephone call you leave me here. With nothing at all.

@ 3:31 AM

.forgiveness.

Sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.

sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.sorry.

@ 5:28 AM